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Make it a Point to Refrain from Saying “You’re Welcome”

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Summary: After years of research, one psychologist believes that people should stop saying “you’re welcome” and insert a different phrase.

Who would have ever thought that it would be polite to refrain from saying “you’re welcome” when someone thanks you for something you have done for them. Instead, a psychologist performed years of study to determine that another phrase should be uttered when someone thanks you for an action or a comment. Robert Cialdini, the author of “Influence,” thinks that by saying “you’re welcome” people are missing out on an opportunity. Cialdini has been studying this response for some 40 years.

Cialdini said, “There is a moment of power that we are all afforded as soon as someone has said ‘thank you.’” Instead of saying “you’re welcome,” Cialdini recommends that we begin to say, “I know you’d do the same for me.”

Cialdini notes that there are three advantages to saying this new response instead of “you’re welcome.” Those three advantages include the following:

  • This response shows the other person that they are involved in a relationship where favors can be asked of one another without keeping score of who owes whom a favor.
  • The response also shows the other person you are confident in providing people with favors.
  • This response will put reciprocity in place as the norm because it will make people feel obligated to return the favor.

When you change your response to this new suggestion from Cialdini, you are conveying to the other person in the relationship that you are open and willing to provide favors to people. There is another idea that has been thrown around as well, this one by entrepreneur Adam Rifkin. Rifkin says that instead of saying what Cialdini recommends, people should say the following:

“I know you’ll do the same for someone else.”

When you answer a person’s “thank you” with this phrase, you show people that you want to help others and that they are not indebted to you for the favor you performed.

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Authored by: Jim Vassallo